*** 5 Types Of Guys That Are Easily Used By Ladies ***

Sometimes, your personality, desires, attitude or character can be the very reason why you find yourself easily used and manipulated by women. If you find yourself in any of the categories below, it would be wise enough for you now to dust your a$$ and retrace your steps!!! Below are some types of guys that are easily manipulated by women:
1) The $ex Freak:
$ex is surely, one formidable tool that women have been using to manipulated men by constantly draining them both financially and emotionally from time immemorial!!! If you are $ex freak, you would do anything she requests for in order not to lose the opportunity to have access to regular $ex! In the long run, you might find yourself spending more than half of your monthly income on her! Being able to control your $exual desires can greatly help you in avoiding the situation of you being a slave to babes!!!
2) The Love-starved Guy:
I know guys who go about looking for love as if it was their destiny Though, it’s not bad to search for love but when you show too much obsession for it, you could be easily used by ladies. Why would you beg a babe to date you? Promising her that you would take care of her or do anything for her? You must be a 21st century mugu!!! When you do this, you have laid yourself on the ground to be trampled on and used in the long run!!!
3) The Emotionally-weak Guy:
Emotionally weak guys are easily used by women. Such guys tend to exhibit attitudes such as desparation, inexperience and romantic foolishness! They can’t say ‘No’ to a lady’s demand at all times…I call them ‘Yes Men’ It is this type of guy that will continue to call a babe up to 78 times, knowing fully well that she doesn’t want to pick his call . He can easily change his important plans just to please a woman who doesn’t even have an atom of love for him. He can starve himself for a babe just to provide her those expensive goodies she has requested for!
4) The Show Guy:
You wan show yourself abi? Your last money on earth is 5k…you don’t know where and when the next money will come yet you would still go ahead to take her to an expensive eatery in order to show her that you can provide her needs. This is where you end up spending almost all the money; if she tells you that she needs this and that and you discover that the bill would take almost all the cash, it would be advisable to tell her the plain fact! Emotionally strong dudes are not afraid to say the facts confidently but emotionally weak dudes are!!! If this is the case, you can be easily used by the babe because she would easily notice this. Nor worry, the owu wey go blow you still dey do road walk!
5) Struggling Guys That Have Taste For Beautiful Women:
This category of guys are very prone to being used and manipulated by ladies. I once opened a thread on struggling guys . If you are a struggling guy with a low income, please face your front! In other words, face the most important things in your life and stop drooling over beautiful babes abeg! These girls will only end up using you when they become aware that you don’t have the wherewithal or resources to live up to their expectations. Heart-break and emotional trauma are the end-resuls! Imagine the situation…you are struggling and she’s so pretty and hot with so many men wanting her with their numerous offers! What do you expect to get if not being used? You nor get money but you wan chop Owerri soup! . I fear you o!

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*** #Ladies Only: 6 Thoughts That Should Never Cross Your Mind ***

It’s common for ladies to want to make reasons why a guy left as soon as they put an end to the relationship. They ask questions of both their loyalty and that of the guy that left and the reasons why he lost interest.
You might get angry and upset as you blame yourself for letting your guy cheat and leave you for someone else. But you have to take a good look at yourself and women that have pa$$ed through the things you’re pa$$ing through, and find there’s an innate beauty lying fallow. You should learn to work, laugh and respect each other. Women are strongly independent and not afraid to let things change for the better as such, if you find yourself having any form of negative thoughts or heartache, just smile and tell yourself you are good enough for a man out there and don’t ever settle for anything than the best.
Talk a walk through 6 things you should never allow to fester through your mind if you intend to live a happy and fulfilling life as a lady.
I wasn’t pretty enough.
Never ever allow the thought that you’re not pretty cross your mind. See yourself as a wonderful being who is graceful and beautiful. You do not need anyone be it a man or woman to boost your confidence. Women and their beauty have shaped the direction of the world from time immemorial. From the seduction of allowing man eat from the Tree of Knowledge to the war of Troy, the beauty of women is so powerful that it can raise and destroy a man. We are goddesses who do not need men to boost our confidence. As such, you are pretty and beautiful enough for the world. But remember with immense beauty comes immense responsibility.
Nothing matters anyway. We weren’t really exclusive.
Hold the thought. Everything matters when it comes to two person expressing their love for each other. He may deserve your bile and wrath you express because you deserve much better than him. All the romantic walks, late night phone calls, celebration of anniversaries and the happiness that comes with knowing that there is somebody somewhere you can trust till the end. If he broke your heart, it matters but do not dwell on the fact that you’re not mutually exclusive.
I don’t have a slim body or big b00bs.
The actual truth is that a nak*d woman is a nak*d woman. Who really cares about size? During the thick of action who cares about jiggly thighs, big b*tt or b00bs? You shouldn’t worry about that and if he is worried about that, simply tell him to shut his eyes as he walks out of the door.
Maybe I suck at $ex?
Perhaps the question you should be asking is why does he suck at $ex? It could be he’s the one who isn’t getting it right and if you ever get to meet the person that is right for you, he will be willing to consider your feelings, teach and learn how to get the best of $exual experience with you. Kindly do yourself a favour and never ask yourself such again.
Should I have given him a bl0wj*b?
A lot of $exually transmitted infections abound including Hepatitis B, gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV and some subtle diseases that result in swelling of your throat and gums. It’s better you do what you want not because you’re being blackmailed to. You actually don’t need anyone to make you feel happy as that is entirely up to you. You’re in control of your desires, actions and choices.
I’m crazy. That’s what everyone thinks, anyway.
It is best for you to believe that you’re good as you are. You may be crazy but you’re brave and courageous as well which is a necessary ingredient to change the world. Try as much as possible not to rush into love by constantly being on the lookout for companionship. Instead, see yourself as someone who can live her life without the validation of others. Next time you see someone that wants to put you down, simply take it in stride because you’re a crazy courageous person who has a lot stored for the future which you can accomplish without someone who thinks you’re not worth it.

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*** Ten different types of men a woman should avoid in her twenties ***

I’m always here to help you make less mistakes, you do love me for that yeah?
Here are the list of men you should literally speed away from in your twenties. Why twenties?because that’s the most sensitive decade in your life.
Oya,let’s begin.
1. The Social media freak. If he claims to be grown up and spends a lot of time on Instagram, twitter/facebook, speed!
2. The Flirty guy. If you constantly ask why he’s acting like he’s into every woman and if he calls every woman “honey” or “babe” or “sweetheart” or any other pet name when you should be together, speed!
3. The Loud guy. If he is so noisy that you sometimes even cringe when you are out together, then speed! A man shouldn’t be loud, he is a man not a boy.
4 . The Wizkid, One directioner & whatever teenage music guy. Scream all you want but when his music taste is limited to those listed above? Pls run. Fast!
5. The Confused guy. The man who doesn’t seem to know what exactly what he wants in life? You know the ones who can’t give a definite response when you ask where he sees himself in five years? Yeah, that one. Run from him.
6.The Bullet Spraying guy. He can’t speak a correct sentence in english yet he never stops talking and he never even listens when he’s corrected. Scramble outta the door.
7. The Complex guy. He has a complex and then becomes defensive whenever you have a talk. He blows things out of proportion and makes you sometimes even feel bad for everything.
8. The over spender. Not like we are complaining about the man who spends a lot on us, I mean who doesn’t love good things? But if he does this and he uses it to cover up when he does bad things or when he pisses you off. He doesn’t need to be around you.
9. The one who is never happy for you. He doesn’t understand why that promotion is such a biggie and doesn’t get why you won’t stop talking about it.
10. The one who looks down on you. He doesn’t ever respect you. What the heck are you waiting for?

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*** Top 5 Ways To Enhance Female Fertility ***

Exercise And Diet
If you want to boost your fertility rate, be conscious of what you eat and engage in regular exercise so as to keep fit. Unhealthy food intake whether too much or too little can contribute as a factor to infertility. Too little or too much weight can make your reproductive cycle irregular. That causes you to ovulate only now and then, or not at all. Your ovaries and your fat cells regulate estrogen, which affects ovulation. If you’re too thin, you may not be producing enough estrogen, and if you’re overweight or obese, you may be producing too much. Moderate exercise can also be a good natural fertility treatment. When combined with a balanced and nutritious diet, exercise can help you to maintain a healthy body weight. Excess body fat can increase the amount of estrogen in your body, throwing the female fertility cycle out of balance. Exercise helps to burn off excess body fat, allow hormone levels to return to normal. It is best not to overdo exercise because exercising can actually impair fertility. Try low impact aerobic workouts like walking, swimming, and cycling. Eat vegetable protein sources, such as cooked dried beans and nuts.
Avoid Chemicals
Avoid chemicals especially the household chemicals if you want to enhance your fertility rate such as the pesticides used on farmlands and in the large fields because they have a great impact on female fertility. Chemicals used to kill insects and weeds that threaten crops may affect female fertility by inhibiting ovarian function and disrupting the menstrual cycle.  So if you’re looking to get pregnant, it’s always a good idea to eat organic fruits and vegetables, wash with residues carefully, and avoid applying pesticides to your lawn or garden. You can use organic solutions for cleaning your apartment. Chemicals found in detergents can also disrupt a woman’s normal menstrual cycle and cause miscarriage and it also possibly affect semen quality. The best thing to do is switch from petroleum-based detergents to vegetable-based, fragrance-free detergents, which contain fewer chemicals. Also, ditch products that contain parabens, phthalates or formaldehyde in favor of more natural, preservative-free alternatives.
Reduce Intake Of Alcohol
Excessive alcohol consumption decreases the ability to get pregnant (it can also harm a developing fetus). Alcohol alters estrogen levels, which may interfere with egg implantation. You should also consider cutting back on caffeine while you try to conceive and during your pregnancy. Caffeine affects the female hormone levels and may affect how long it takes to get pregnant. If you’re considering getting pregnant, limit your daily consumption of caffeine. You can eliminate alcohol totally to encourage fertility.
Regular $ex And Positions
It’s really a good idea to start having $ex more often than before with your partner. Weekly $ex may cause you to produce more estrogen, frequent $ex helps when you’re actually trying to conceive and having $ex every one to two days during your fertile window is a$$ociated with the best chance of pregnancy. You might also try making love every few days all month long. The “fertile window” spans a six-day interval, the five days prior to ovulation and the day of it, because these are the days you mostly likely get pregnant intercourse is most likely to result in a pregnancy when it occurs two days before ovulation. If you are having difficulty becoming pregnant, you and your partner may need to experiment different conception positions during intercourse. In order to become pregnant, your partner must deposit his sperm as close as possible to your cervix. Certain positions will allow this to happen more easily. Avoid having $ex while standing, sitting, or with you on top, as this can cause semen to leak out of your body. Instead, try the missionary position, which allows for deeper penetration. Rear entry intercourse is also effective, as it allows your partner to deposit semen closer to your cervix. To keep any extra semen from leaking out of you, try elevating your hips for fifteen minutes or so after your have $ex.
Engage In Fertility Ma$$age
Fertility Ma$$age awakens the uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. This awakening invites in healthy fresh oxygenated blood, gently moves toxins out and strengthens the entire pelvic bowl. Fertility Ma$$age is important to women’s reproductive health, it is the series of ma$$age techniques you can do from home to increase reproductive organ health. It helps to promote hormonal balance, promote circulation to the reproductive organ, reduce pain, strengthen the uterus and more. Self Fertility Ma$$age can also be part of a natural therapy program for blocked fallopian tubes, endometriosis and uterine fibroids.
Reduce stress, drink fertility smoothie daily, don’t douche because it can wipe off normal protecting bacteria and most importantly know your cycle, a normal menstrual cycle lasts about 21 to 35 days (start counting on the first day of your period). If your cycle is noticeably longer like 42 days, you can a$$ume you’re ovulating less often and may want to see your ob-gyn or midwife. When you’re ready to conceive, find your fertile window, during which you should have intercourse regularly. A woman’s fertile days are usually the day of ovulation and the four of five days before. The ovulation varies among women, occurring as early as day 6 and as late as day 21 of a cycle. You can as well know when you’re ovulating with urine or saliva based ovulation test kits; both types check for the presence of hormones that indicate ovulation is imminent. You can also note daily changes in your basal body temperature.

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*** 8 Signs To Know If Your Man Is g*y ***

He Is Obsessed With Other Men
It is simply a subconscious behavior that every man does throughout the day without realizing it, that is to check out on the opposite $ex. But when he starts to check out on other men regularly, instead of women, well, there is a problem. The next time you’re out or on a date with him, just pay close attention to where his eyes are roaming. If not women, he is busy checking out other men.
Flirty With Males
Guys keep male friends, but when the guy seems a little out of place with his guy pals, always hanging out with men in secluded areas and he seems to be a bit more flirty than normal, that could definitely be a sign that he’s playing for the other team. When he even spends the night with his male friends often he might be enjoying his best $exual moments. As men get older, the idea of having a party gets less and less exciting. In fact, the thought of having another guy spend the night is almost repulsive unless they are best friends and one will be snoozing on the couch. If this guy is spending a lot of his time at a guy’s apartment and overnight, he may be seeing this guy in much more than a usual friendly manner.
He Acts Like A Lady
It’s certainly a well known stereotype that g*ys tend to be a bit more conscious about the way they look and try to look perfect majority of the time. If this guy is just a little bit too perfect like his hair is always done nicely, powdered face, even well groomed eye brows, his beards perfectly shaven and his outfit is as fashion forward as it could possibly get with matching shoes and scarves then you need no one to inform you that he is g*y. When he spends more time than an average female in the bathroom every morning, he might just be very metro$exual and care a lot about his looks but at least ninety percent of males aren’t like that. So pay attention to this.
He Idols The Top Male Celebrities
g*y men love male $exy celebrities who live lavish, over the top lifestyles. They love it because these individuals aren’t afraid to be out there and have all of the finest things in life. If this dude seems to idol celebrities with incredibly lavish lifestyle, then he may be g*y.
He Enjoys Watching “Girly” Television Shows
Most guys have this phobia for girly television shows. It will be hard to meet a guy who will want to sit through another episode of “The Real Housewives of Orange County” or “Glee” or any other stereotypical “girly” show on TV the way he will sit around and wait for the next episode of Game of Thrones, Tyrant and any masculine movies. But if a guy seems to be up to date on all of these female shows, it may be a sign that he’s g*y.
He Speaks In Favor Of g*ys
If he is fond of defending the g*ys and sees nothing bad in the act is a good sign to know that he is one. Most g*y men will go out of their way to make it apparent that there is absolutely nothing wrong with g*y men and they should be treated equally. And while this is absolutely true, most men won’t make this a usual topic of conversation. So, if this guy seems to bring up the g*y community often and goes out of his way to make sure you know how okay it is, it may be a way for him to justify his $exuality.
He Despises g*ys
On the other hand, some g*y males especially ones who are not out of the closet yet, will go out of their way to show how much they despise g*y males and the g*y community altogether. It’s simply a way for them to try and hide their true feelings and make it seem like they are in fact, straight. If the guy tends to bring up the g*y community in a negative way often, he might be trying to hide something from you and maybe hide something from himself too.
He Doesn’t Compliment Girls Normally Like Every Other Guy
When you wear a new dress or get your hair done, most men won’t even notice. And if they do, they’ll most likely say something like, “Wow, you look $exy” or “You look beautiful”. Those are just the normal things men say. They aren’t really ones for going overboard with hundreds of adjectives thrown into every compliment. But if this guy tends to throw out compliments that are simply not masculine and way too fashionable, there may be a problem. For instance, a guy shouldn’t be complimenting you on how well a girls red Gucci dress matches with your gorgeous high heels and how it would look even better if she threw on a leather jacket to tie the look together or that the hair looks lovely but she might want to go with a blunt cut since your hair is on the thin side. Hair and outfits are two things most men aren’t interested in nor know a thing about unless he’s g*y.

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*** 5 rare types of men you’d be lucky to meet ***

There are certain rare qualities that are difficult to find in a man, but there are men out there who do possess them. Perhaps you are staying single until you meet one of these men, and it may take a while to find one. But, it’s worth the wait. Sometimes a man has to be slapped in the face by the dating game several times before he has a grasp on the type of man he should strive to be. In staying single until you meet one of these types of men, you are being smart and selective. Here are five rare types of men you would be extremely lucky to meet:
1. The Man Who Is Not Shallow This man is looking for something beyond looks. This man notices a woman with depth, drive, layers and character. Of course, it’s important to be attracted to someone, but a man who is not shallow is a man who won’t forget all about you the moment he meets a gorgeous bombshell. Although many men claim they place a higher importance on personality than they do looks, at the end of the day, they’re choosing the woman who was the most stunning in the looks department. It’s not your problem, though. It can take several years for a man to come to terms with what is truly important in a woman, and until he comes to that realization on his own, he’ll be swimming in the shallow end. Eventually, when diving into the shallow end of the pool results in nothing but bruises and scr*pes, he’ll test the waters of the deep end, and that is where he will find you.
2. The Direct Man This man is a rare breed. He is direct, and if he likes you, he tells you. Similarly, if he’s not into you, he tells you right away instead of wasting your time by procrastinating to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. If there is something you’re doing that is bothering him, the direct man is honest instead of giving you the cold shoulder. The direct man has the strength of character required to be forthcoming instead of nonchalant.
3. The Man With Follow-Through Follow-through is a very important character trait. Women will immediately notice whether or not a man possesses this quality. If there is no discrepancy between his words and his actions, he possesses follow-through. For example, if he says he wants to see you and follows through with those words by planning a date with you, he is the type of man who follows through on his words with the appropriate actions. He keeps the momentum going and does not drag his feet when it comes to asking you out on a second or third date.
4. The Man Who Wears His Heart On His Sleeve This man is not afraid of rejection. Even if there are some risks to telling you how he feels about you (like the chance of awkwardness, embarra$$ment or rejection), he doesn’t care. He wears his heart on his sleeve and tells you how much he likes you and why. He doesn’t play it cool in an attempt to appeal to you more, or participate in any other dating games. Just like the direct man, this man does not play games.
5. The Man Who Sees You This man is always present when he’s with you. He takes the time to get to know you; he is engaged in the conversation and appreciates all the layers that make you special. He notices the little things that set you apart from other women, the things you thought nobody noticed. His ability to truly see you and set you apart from others is what makes him so special.

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*** 10 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage [Must Read] ***

When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, gym centers, parks, clubs among others.
Despite the many romantic attributes that could be said of men in Nigeria, women still hold a contrary account about them. Predominant among the contrary views women hold against men here is that no matter how romantic they are, getting them to the altar for marriage could be very challenging.
So, what are those factors that scare Nigerian men away from marriage? We have tried to compile some reasons that make most men feel jittery to converse on ‘Marriage’ as topic, feel free to add yours if not in our list.
1.
No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage. If this is the case, time of quality search can help heal the wound of such man.
2.
They get $ex freely without marriage than in time past
Realizing now that they can get $ex more easily than in times past, when ‘virg*n*ty’ for women was a pa$$ value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole. But, this might not be the fault of women as promiscuity is not an exclusive act than can be carried out without the consent of either gender.
3.
Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. As of last year, the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N500,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost. For most people, especially in this economy, that’s a lot of money. But all we advise is that men should try and cut their coat according to their material
4.
In search of a ‘working cla$$’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.
5.
Fear of freedom
There is a common belief among some men that marriage puts an end to one’s freedom. Single men today are much more proud about not being dependent and being on their own. They fear marriage because they will become answerable for every action they take to their spouse. That is one big responsibility some men are not ready to take up.
6.
Career
One of the predominant question most men will secretly ask themselves before making the decision to marry are, Will my partner make agitated about me being in office for long hours? Will he or she understand my love for my career? These are cogent questions and answering these questions could slow the decisive actions to be taken on marriage plans.
7.
Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships. If the expectations are behavior*l, the challenge might be little but e are some discouraging situations where parents decide the profession qualifications, properties, etc that must be acquired by the suitor before they can give out their child to him in marriage.
8.
Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.
9.
Bad Testimonies from Married couple
Generally, most men get intimidated by marriage as a result of the testimonies they hear from those in marriage. Before getting into marriage talks, it is a common thing among men to ask their brothers, friends who are already married on how the social institution is and the testimonies they get are most times discouraging, as such they fear their marriage will be a replica of the testimonies they have gathered.
10.
Cultural limitations
Nigeria is a country with diverse culture and The diversity sometimes create challenges for men who are in search of women with similar culture. The good thing though is that those who endeavor to explore inter-cultural relationships get the opportunity to gain an in-depth appreciation of other customs.
-vanguardngr.com

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*** 12 reasons why every girl wants a bad boy, but needs a good guy ***

People are pretty screwed up individuals — or, at least, that’s the way most of us come across. It seems as if almost every want and need we have is closely paired with its exact opposite. What we want and/or need seems to contradict itself continuously when observed over a stretch of time.
This can especially be seen when looking at the types of people we date. We date a certain type of person until we decide we are no longer interested in that type. Then, we try to land the exact opposite — convincing ourselves we are testing out the waters and figuring out what exactly it is we are looking for in a partner. However, these seemingly contradictory urges aren’t actually contradictory.
Take women, for example: Every woman will be attracted to what we would call a “Bad Boy” at some point in her life or another. Every woman will also, inevitably, decide she prefers having a “Good Guy” instead — a guy she can trust to be there for her when she needs him. While most guys do fall closer to one end of the spectrum than the other, it is possible to find guys who possess both the traits of the Bad Boy and the Good Guy. In fact, that’s what every woman is looking for in her life — even if she doesn’t know it yet. Every woman wants a Bad Boy who is also a Good Guy; here’s why:
1. Bad Boys add much needed drama into your life. You may say you don’t like drama, but that isn’t entirely true, is it? You like drama because drama is what makes you feel alive. It’s what makes you feel as if your life matters. Women love Bad Boys because they allow for an emotional roller coaster ride, which often creates the most memorable moments of our lives — something that is seemingly lacking with the more stable, Good Guys.
2. Good Guys know when to curb that drama. Drama, like all things, is only good in smaller doses. Being reminded we are alive by the emotions that the drama in our lives allows for is only great until it’s not. That’s why you need a Good Guy in your life. He’ll make sure to control his own emotions, words and actions so that the drama doesn’t push you over the edge and away from him.
3. Bad Boys will take you on adventures. They have a knack for thinking outside the box and forcing you to go outside your comfort zone. Most people don’t like to push themselves outside their comfort zones — it makes them feel uncomfortable. Having someone to push you to do the things you wouldn’t normally do allows for a much more fulfilling life.
4. Good Guys will keep you safe. Going on adventures is great… but Bad Boys are often very selfish individuals. They may take you on an adventure, but they may just leave you there. Good Guys, on the other hand, are just as worried about your safety as their own — if not even more so. You don’t just want a man who will push you out of your comfort zone, but one who will also stay by your side on your adventures.
5. Bad Boys are great in bed. Why? Because they’re willing to do and try things that most would consider taboo. Bad Boys are always looking to live out their fantasies and are likely to bring you to new heights of $exual experiences.
6. Good Guys will make love to you. While Bad Boys are all about $ex, Good Guys are about making you feel like the amazing and beautiful woman you are. They aren’t just looking to make their $exual fantasies come true, but are also looking to make yours a reality.
7. Bad Boys will make you take risks. Having him by your side will more often than not give you the courage to attempt things you otherwise wouldn’t have been able to find the courage to even try to do. This could mean following some dreams you gave up on long before you started pursuing them.
8. Good Guys know when the risks aren’t worth the rewards. Some risks are worth taking while others aren’t — Good Guys know the difference and feel the need to warn you when they think you may be taking on too much of a gamble. We don’t just need someone in our lives to push us to follow our dreams, but also someone who will tell us when the timing just isn’t right or when the desired outcome is almost certainly unlikely.
9. Bad Boys make great friends. They’re fun to be around. They’re fun to party with, to have new experiences with and to let loose with. They’re the guys who will make sure you always have a fun time.
10. Good Guys make great partners. They are there to support you, to motivate you, to keep you on the right track. They have your back when times are good and when times are bad. They give you the benefit of the doubt and they trust you — a quality few people are willing to offer.
11. Bad Boys will make you feel as if you could lose them at any time. Again, you may think this is a feeling you don’t wish to experience… but that isn’t true. All women — and men for that matter — want to think they could lose the love of their lives. We need to believe we could lose them because it reminds us how much they mean to us. Security in a relationship is a great thing, but 100 percent certainty gets boring.
12. If Good Guys promise you they will never leave you, they will never leave you. The ideal partner is a partner you fear losing every day, but know in your heart will never leave you. Good Guys will be there for you until the end if they continue to find you deserving of their love. The problem is that once we feel entirely safe, we get bored. We need that bit of extra excitement — a bit of uncertainty — to keep the fire alive. You need to find a Bad Boy who managed to turn into a Good Guy in order to get the best of both worlds. -Paul Hudson

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*** 11 Huge Turnoffs For Girls That All Guys Need To Know ***

There’s a handsome man across the room,
you both lock eyes and he starts to make his
way over, all is going well until his first
words are spoken and his breath is
unbearable. Bad smells are not something
that we can easily get past while getting to
know someone, so if their poor hygiene is
noticeable on the first date, don’t be shocked
when she goes running for the hills.
There comes a time when you need to ask
yourself, is it something I’m doing? When all
of your relationships seem to fall apart
around the same time and for the same
reason, it’s a good time to clue in and see if
you can do something to change the pattern.
This is not to say that you are at fault for all
failed relationships, but there could be things
you are doing that are a huge turn-off for
her.
11. Brashly Self-Confident
We don’t mind if you tell us about your
promotion or your great workout at the gym,
but the moment you start telling us that you
are God’s gift to women, we’re pretty quick
to run away.
In general, women find themselves less
attractive than they really are, while men
(you guessed it) find themselves more
attractive than they actually are. So the next
time, you want to tell us about how the flight
attendant was checking you out or how
everybody is jealous of you at work, do us a
favor and bite your tongue – hard.
10. Lack of Communication
There is nothing that makes a woman get
frustrated like a man who can’t
communicate. We don’t think this should be
rocket science. If you say you are coming at
6 p.m., show up at 6 p.m. If we leave you a
voicemail or send you a text, don’t wait until
tomorrow to respond.
Women tend to keep track of how well her
man is keeping in touch. Once he starts to
lose contact, we figure that either the spark
is gone, or he’s found it with someone else –
or maybe both. Show your girl she matters
and pick up the phone.
9. Bad Breath
Perhaps this one seems too obvious, but
some men don’t seem to get it. Take a whiff
of your own breath before you even think
about putting your lips to ours. A good teeth
brushing and a swig of mouthwash should
happen before we see your face.
Going to eat garlic for dinner? Be sure to
bring breath mints, breath spray or gum so
that we can both enjoy the goodnight kiss.
8. Ex Obsession
While we do appreciate your honesty about
your relationship history, we don’t need the
gory details. Please don’t compare us or tell
us about all the places you went on dates
together.
If you want to ruin the mood quickly, please
remind us of how you celebrated your first
anniversary at this very same restaurant and
how your ex loved the raspberry cheesecake.
If not, try looking into our eyes and
obsessing over us for a minute – or longer.
7. Still Stuck to Mom
There is nothing wrong with a man who
loves his Momma. However, when a
romantic evening gets put on pause so that
you can call home, or when you pa$$ on
mom’s tips about how your woman should
cook, clean or groom herself, it gets old –
fast.
Please show your mother you love her, but
let us know we’re no. 1 and that you
appreciate what we do – even if it isn’t
exactly how your mum did it.
6. No PDA
If you think we’re talking about something
you take to business meetings, you may need
help in this area.
We do appreciate knowing that your love for
us is more than skin deep. However, if all of
a sudden you back off and stop putting your
hand around our shoulder or giving
spontaneous pecks on the cheek when we’re
out and about, we notice.
We want to know that you want to be with
us and that you want the world to see. If
not, we start questioning if there is someone
else that you are afraid will see us together.
Even if we’ve outgrown make-out sessions
on street corners, we still like to have you
securely close – all the time.
5. Not Knowing Your Limits
It’s great to go out for drinks or have a few
beers. Once your speech starts getting
slurred, you start losing more than just your
speech.
You don’t have to prove to us that you can
hold your liquor. We don’t really care how
many shots you can take or how many beers
you can chug. We’d much rather that you
were sober enough to drive us home at the
end of the night.
4. Wallet Woes
We don’t mind splitting dinner once in a
while or even paying our own way once in a
while, but the moment you start cancelling
dates because you don’t have money, the fun
is over.
If your pocketbook is empty, or you just
don’t want to pay, be straightforward. It’s
better to have this conversation before the
date starts, not in the midst of it.
We don’t expect five-star hotels and five-
course meals. Pick something within your
budget and treat us. Unless you’re a
millionaire, we’re not anticipating a yacht to
pick us up. Just make us feel like we’re a
million bucks, and we’ll both be happy.
3. The Cologne Cloud
Don’t get us wrong, we like a man who
smells nice – just keep it subtle. If we start
sneezing, coughing, gagging or getting a
headache because of your smell, don’t count
on us sticking around for dessert – or a
second date.
When a man wears too much cologne we a$
$ume that: a. He has really bad body odor, b.
He doesn’t like to shower. c. He’s really
insecure or d. He really has no sense of
smell. None of these leaves a particularly
good impression. If in doubt, just a dab will
do you. Same goes with aftershave and
deodorant.
2. Swearing Like a Sailor
It’s not necessary to talk like a Harvard
professor, but we do want you to be able to
converse intelligently with mom and dad, our
co-workers and our friends. If every other
word is an expletive, our relationship is not
likely to be smooth sailing for long.
Most people swear when they are angry or
frustrated, and we don’t want you to feel
that way when you are around us. We like
men who can keep their cool and can maybe
even grace us with a sonnet or two. Now that’s hot!
1. No Commitment
We don’t expect or even want a ring on the
first date – or even in the first month, but
we notice when a guy can’t commit. Whether
it is the guy who has a new girl every week,
gave up on his marriage after a year or two
or just can’t seem to keep a job, it leaves us
with a bad taste in our mouths.
If you want us to stick around forever, let us
know. Don’t throw wife into your vocabulary
yet or start making scrapbooks of our future
children but communicating that you’re
thinking of your future with us in it, keeps us
in the picture long-term as well.

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**** 6 Ways You Don’t Know You Are Ruining Your Relationship ****

The truth is a relationship can record little or no success without a relative amount of effort from both parties involved in it. The irony of this fact however is that even as you sometimes make efforts to improve the bond in the relationship, you might actually be doing things that will create little problems which could grow into bigger ones as time goes on. Some of the things you do may become habits which are bound to create arguments between you and your partner and may perhaps leave you both less satisfied.
For this reason, we bring to you 6 things are seemingly good good efforts put into a relationship but which may actually be running your relationship subtly. We believe creating a balance with them or taking them out of circulation may have a profound and lasting effect on your relationship.
1. Giving Your BFF More Attention:
It is quite easy to subtly create problems in your relationship when you give your best friend a lot of attention. The level of attention might be quite minute and insignificant at first but as time goes by, your boyfriend might begin to feel threatened. It is essential to create a balance between both and make your boyfriend understand what’s going on.
2. Seeing Your Partner In Light Of Your Friend:
The ultimate relationship goal is always to see your partner and your friend as one of the same but this has the tendency to make you unhappy. It is important you understand the uniqueness of every individual and relating to them as such.
3. Expecting Your Partner To Be Empathetic:
This is more common with women as they expect their boyfriends to feel and relate to the way they are feeling. Expecting your partner to always feel natural empathy for you and always knowing the right thing to say can only lead to problems. It is important for you to recognize the fact that men and women have different thought processes. For instance, check out a scenario when you had a spat with your colleague at work and you vent to your partner. Chances are your partner would want to get to the root cause of the spat. This may lead to either of you getting defensive and frustrated, which may cause a huge blowup at the end of it all. A friend on the other hand could listen to you attentively and empathize with you. This is not to say your partner shouldn’t be your confidant even though you shouldn’t be totally reliant on them.
4. Watch The Surprises
Surprises make for wonderful and exhilarating experiences in relationships and should be well utilized. They could range from bringing your partner a gift of beer, chocolates, mobile devices and so on. However, too much of surprises may make your partner feel smothered and choked especially if the relationship is new. It’s a nice thing to think up surprises to captivate your partner but make sure you don’t do it more often than nought. Doing it continually may make your partner feel defeated and unable to keep up with you.
5. Care For Yourself
It is nice to cater about your partner and try as much as possible to make them always have a good time but also remember to care for your own needs as well. A lot of the time, people in relationships feel that $ex is all about their partners pleasure and this is mostly common in women. A lot of the time, they fail to bring things up because of the fear of rocking the boat but it is important to ensure that the both of you understand what is going. It is important to talk with each other about your $ex lives and other areas and things that you want to be done differently. These things are best done during none $exual moments so that any form of ego bruising can be avoided.
6. Not Encouraging Them
If your partner has a pa$$ion for something or is looking to develop at work, it is important you cheer him on and encourage him whatever way you can. Not doing so could send the wrong signals to them that you are unsupportive. Also, sprucing him up generally even when they are happy about it could upset him and have a negative effect. Sometimes, people tend to focus on a few of the wrong things going on in their partner’s life rather than the very many things that are right. Thus, it is essential to create a fine line between encouraging them to be better and making them feel they don’t measure up. It is this better to err on the side of caution than lose it all.

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