Men with genetic make up linked to social dominance and leadership are seen as more desirable romantic partners by members of the opposite sex, a study says.
Conversely, men find women with genetic make up linked to sensitivity/submissiveness more attractive, the findings showed.
The findings, published in the journal Human Nature, suggest that men and women with genotypes consistent with prevailing gender norms are seen as more desirable.
The researchers from the University of California, Irvine wanted to find out if mate selection could actually be influenced by people’s ability to quickly detect the so-called “good genes.”
The team led by Karen Wu turned to speed-dating to test their predictions in a real-life scenario.
In such meet-ups, participants only had a few minutes to assess the short- and long-term potential of their speed-dating partners, and to decide whether or not to offer their partners a second date.
The team recruited 262 single Asian Americans to have three-minute dates with members of the opposite sex.
After each speed-date, participants were asked whether or not they wanted to offer their partner a second date, and how desirable they found the person as a romantic partner.
Participants were notified of a “match” (and thus obtained each other’s contact information) only if they both offered each other another date.
When examining the DNA samples collected from participants, the researchers focused on two polymorphisms (on two different genes) that were previously linked to social dynamics.
One of the polymorphisms is part of the genetic make-up that has been linked to social dominance and leadership.
The other, which has been linked to social sensitivity, is part of the opioid receptor gene that contributes to people’s capacity to experience social pleasure and pain, and their need to have social contact.
The researchers found that men and women with genotypes consistent with prevailing gender norms were more likely to receive second date offers.
They were also seen as more desirable short- and long-term romantic following
Other reasons may includes the following
You must be trustworthy
At the core of this power exchange between the dominant and the submissive there is trust. In a free modern society, submission is not something that you impose on women but something that they give you when they can fully trust you with their life.
To be trustworthy, you need to have integrity with yourself, to keep your word at all times and to fulfil your responsibility as a good dominant diligently.
Only once you have proven that she can surrender to you and that everything is going to be sweet under your dominance, she will do just that.
Especially if you’re young, you definitively need to demonstrate that you can be trusted and that you know what you’re doing.
You’re the boss
See it like this: you’re the boss and your girlfriend or wife is your lieutenant. Obviously, what she thinks matters, she is second-in-command in your unit, and you’re the one who gave her the promotion. But let’s be clear about one important thing here: you are the one who makes the decision and take the responsibility for it. If you’re smart, you should ask for her opinion, her point of view or ideas but if they are unreasonable, you do not necessarily have to implement them.
You’re the boss, you’re in charge, you make the decisions, and if they turn to shit, you’re responsible for fixing them.
Realize one thing: yes, she wants to be heard; yes, she wants to be trusted, although she doesn’t want to make the decisions and take the responsibilities that come with them!
You need to take charge in simple everyday stuff, for example: It’s Saturday night and you chose to reward her with a dinner at a restaurant because she had been a good girl all week long. Then, you chose the restaurant and you even requested a specific table for the occasion. Then you chose her place and pulled her chair showing her where to sit, and then you chose the food and made the order. If you’re with the family, you sit at the head of the table. Before leaving the place, you paid the bill. If the service or the food sucked, you then spoke with the manager or dragged her to another place.
Forget about those new modern western models for relationships because that kind of crap doesn’t work; statistics on divorce pretty much make my point for me. Trust me! Be smart and stick to what worked very well in all cultures around the world since the last few thousand years, and it’s going to be fine. Just trust the knowledge of those billions of other men who came before you on this.
If your daily work or business requires more energy than hers, or that you bring more money home, it’s only logical that you take more rest once at home. Explain it to her that you’re doing harder work and you have more responsibilities, thus you need to take a fucking nap! It’s her duty to make sure that you can.
If she is not a nut-job, and you’re a good dominant figure in her life, then there will be no problem with that.
In exchange, you need to respect her domestic work and be grateful for it. When she does a good job, it’s your duty as the dominant figure to express your appreciation, and even reward her good behaviour once in a while. On the long run, she will love and take pride in taking care of you because she knows that if she doesn’t keep up with you, then there are plenty of other women who would. This will make her special.