*** Ladies: Define His Love With These 31 Signs ***

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Love is such a hard thing to define. To some people it’s a feeling; to others, it’s an action. And although it can be challenging to pin down exactly what love is, its manifestations are pretty easy to identify.

 

Here is a list of signs he isn’t in love:

 

1. He doesn’t remember things you tell him

2. He compares you to other women

3. He avoids physical contact

4. He doesn’t have respect for things that are important to you

5. He’s uninterested in solving problems

6. And when you try to solve problems it turns into a big fight

7. He doesn’t make time with you a priority

8. He tries to change you

9. He doesn’t offer to help you

10. He’s constantly on his phone when you’re together

11. His goals don’t align with yours

12. He doesn’t trust you

13. You are losing trust in him

14. It’s hard to talk about things that are important to you

15. He puts you down, even if it’s “joking”

16. His friends and family don’t know much about you

17. And he doesn’t respect your friends and family

18. Being around him doesn’t make you feel good about yourself

19. He doesn’t share personal details about his life with you

20. He never says “I’m sorry”

21. He tells you he needs space

22. It’s hard to have a good conversation

23. He’s easily annoyed by you

24. You’re not his No. 1 priority

25. He’s consistently negative

26. He keeps secrets

27. He doesn’t talk about the future

28. He’s not curious about your life

29. He doesn’t treat you differently than other people

30. He spends a lot of time talking to other girls

31. It’s not obvious that he loves you

At the end of the day, you can feel it in your gut. If he loves you, he will make sure you know it.

*** 11 Ways To Know That A Guy Is Not Ready For Marriage ***

It beats my imagination when I see grown up dudes cultivating adolescence habits even though they are old enough to have set of kids they are fathering. As a result of this, ladies consider them as being unserious for marital settling down
The below points indicate a guy who is not ready for marriage;
1. He keeps several girlfriends
The flirtatious nature of some dudes can be likened to that of a rooster that chases several hens desperately and shamelessly. They however service several kitty-cats and hold boastful thrust of discussion amongst their friends, without knowing that chasing every lady on the street is not an achievement and will never be an achievement anytime any day. This is a sign of immaturity which shows that a dude’s mind is not preoccupied with marriage but bull.poo.
2. Being too dependent on parents
It is a degrading and shameful habit for a grown up man to make cooked up stories just to scam his parents for money. However, they are just so dependent on their parents for ridiculous things such as recharge card, hair cut, etc. Depending on your parents for this ridiculous things does not dignify a man.
3. Uncontrolled spending
I pity the life of some guys who spend as if there is no tomorrow. Once they make money, they won’t even think about future hardship but will spend this money on rendezvous with these hungry ladies we see around.
4. Laziness and idleness
I can’t but shake my head when I see guys clustered at jedi jedi/otapiapia seller shops. These guys having nothing bothering them and can be used for political agitation and thuggery. They are always waiting for the day God will throw them money from heaven, without working for it.
5. Eating and sleeping at friend’s house
Some dudes don’t even have caution of what they eat. They can sell their birthright just like the case of Esau. Which lady will even go on a date with this kind of a man?
6. Poor perception about Love
Some guys lack purpose, mission and vision in life that planning seems to be like a mission impossible for them. Their mentality has been wired awkwardly that the perception they have about relationship is just to $ex, and when a lady denies them of it, they will say she doesn’t love them.
7. Being too proud to apologize
Guys who blame people for their misfortune and wrongdoings are nothing but dumb skill. They feel like they are doing a lady a favour by dating her. Even when they offend their supposed girlfriend, they will always expect her to apologize to them. These kind of guys have no business being in relationship at all.
8. Poor religious life
Some dudes can spend the night at club house but make dem spend ordinary one hour for church or mosque, na punishment.. That you are thinking of settling down should be a more reason why you should get closer to God and have a personal relationship with him rather than wasting your precious time at bar and clubs.
9. Becoming a regular Visitor of the Brothel
I used to be a regular patronizer of the brothel. Wait ooooo !!! Before you tongue-lash me, I never opined that I used to bleep prostitutes oooo, I only said I used to be a regular patronizer of ashowo joint. But now that I’m thinking of settling down it wouldn’t be nice bleeping prostitutes when I have a girlfriend.
10. Going for singles” programme just to meet with New Babes
I think I should be awarded a golden medal for this. When I was still very much young, my friends and I used to put on our best attires at the mention of “single programmes” held in churches in our locality even though we were never invited. I could remember vividly when I joined my fellowship workforce and became a choir member just to have the attention of a lady in the choir unit whom I had been fantasizing. But now guys don grow, we don’t do that bullshit again
11. Playing Nairabet, 1960Bet, Bet9ja, Baba Ijebu and the likes
Truth be told, guys who are regular patronizers of the aforementioned betting companies are not even ready to marry. nobody should quote me oooo
*Quote me to say rubb-ish and I will show you why elephant is the only mammal that cannot jump*

*** 12 Types of Single Girls — Which One Are You? ***

How your love life is going depends a lot on how you approach it. Here are 12 types of single girls to help shine a light on what your style is (they each have upsides and downsides but there’s one that we think is ideal – you have to read on to see which one it is!):
1. The Romantic. You’ve watched every rom com out there and are looking for a soulmates-kind-of-love like Allie and Noah’s in The Notebook. Settling is definitely not your thing. You’ll know you’ve found THE guy because he’ll shower you with love, affection and gifts while whispering poetry in your ear at a dinner he organized next to a waterfall as a band he hired plays your favorite songs beneath the setting sun. It will be beautiful.
If you’re her, remember: There’s nothing wrong with holding out for your soulmate or expecting your guy to be a romantic but be reasonable. Men in real life don’t behave like characters played by Ryan Gosling on screen.
2. The Cynic. You’re not a fool. You’ve been around the block once or twice and your bullshit detection system is so tight, it could have been built by NASA. When you meet a guy, you don’t fall hard and fast — you actually a$$ume he’s an a$$hole from the beginning and make him prove he’s not — you’ve had your heart broken a few times and, damnit, you will not let it happen again.
If you’re her, remember: We’re all for making a guy prove he’s worthy before letting him in but being too careful/scared can make you seem closed and limit your opportunities. Be open, hope for the best, and take chances. Like they say in the lottery ads, you can’t win if you don’t .!
3. The Picky B*itch. You are the bomb so, of course, it takes an extraordinary man to capture your attention. If he doesn’t check all the boxes on your ever-growing list, you can’t be bothered. Your friends say you’re being too selective but you disagree — you just have standards. You know what you want and you’re going to wait until he comes along.
If you’re her, remember: Love is an adventure — it’s unpredictable — so there’s a huge chance that the person who knocks your socks off won’t be anything like what you imagined. Toss that list and take every guy on a case-by-case basis. If you don’t, you could miss out on some amazing experiences, lessons and the guy of your dreams.
4. The Serial Dater. OMG, what’s everyone b!tching about? It’s not that hard to find a guy. Maybe not for you because, well, you like everyone . That guy who’s totally boring? At least he has a good job. That guy who’s not smart at all? At least he’s fun. Your friends think it’s weird that you don’t have a type and accuse you of not having standards but you don’t care — as far as you’re concerned, they’re just jealous because you’re always with someone.
If you’re her, remember: Being open is great but being so open that you’re always taken isn’t healthy. It’s important to take some time for yourself in between relationships to reflect on what you need and really want — we bet you’ll suddenly become more picky.
5. The Desperate Chick. Like the Serial Dater, you’ll give anyone a shot but your reasons are different. You’re tired of dating and scared to end up alone. You NEED to be with someone, like right now, or you’re going to end up spending another evening binge-watching The Mindy Project with a bag of oreos. Your solution: trying really, really, REALLY hard.
If you’re her, remember: Trying too hard is an awesome way to end up with a terrible guy. You need to put dating and men out of your mind for a while and just have fun. Stop trying to force it… If you step back a little, stop obsessing, and take the pressure off, dating will be fun again.
6. The Fatalist. You are done. Not done like The Desperate Chick who’s just ready to accept anyone but DONE as in romantic comedies just straight up piss you off now because you realize what bullshit this whole love thing is. You tried, it didn’t happen, and now you’re just going to chill in your apartment and let yourself go because why even bother? All those people who are in love are eventually going to break up or get divorced anyway. You’re just saving yourself the heartache.
If you’re her, remember: Rejection, breakups, heartache — that stuff is HARD. But that doesn’t mean it’s okay to give up. The reward is too big not to try. You don’t realize that because you haven’t met the right person yet. But when you do, you’ll understand why it was all worth it. So stop b!tching and pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game.
7. The Alpha. You are fiercely independent. You don’t just have a job but a career, and no one has ever accused you of not having your sh*t together. You definitely want love in your life but guys have such weak egos that they’re usually intimidated by your success. What’s a girl to do? So, you just keep focusing on work, going on the occasional date when you can fit it in, hoping something will work out one of these days. And if not, oh well, work is already basically the love of your life anyway.
If you’re her, remember: Your life is what you make it. If you want love, you have to make room for it. It’s that simple.
8. The Clock Watcher. You want a baby. In fact, you want a baby so badly that you don’t even care about the guy. As long as he has good DNA and a job, you’re down to get knocked up (which is why you don’t even insist on condoms anymore). Sure, it would be nice to fall in love too but whatever — at this point, as long as you get some spermies that can swim, you’re cool.
If you’re her, remember: We get it. And if you want to go to a sperm bank or ask a guy friend for some of his stuff, that’s cool. But it’s not cool to go around having unprotected s*ex with the hope of finding yourself preggers. It’s actually kind of messed up.
9. The Mess. You don’t know what you want. As long as you’ve had a few drinks, you’re happy and open to anything and anyone. Sure, you often end up in compromising situations — puking in the street, waking up at some random’s house, stumbling home in a daze — but that’s what you do when you’re young, right?
If you’re her, remember: Being young is awesome but squandering that time in a haze of booze is not. And the guys you’re attracting — not the good ones. Get yourself together.
10. The Pragmatist. You’re all business. You’re not looking for fireworks but for a stable life partner you can trust. And finding him is your part-time job. You believe it’s all about putting in the time and effort… So, you’re focused and organized — you’re on all the dating sites and you go to all the right places. If you make this enough of a priority, and meet enough guys, one of them will eventually fit.
If you’re her, remember: What you’re doing is fine. Just remember to loosen up and have some fun too. If you let go a little, you might be surprised and end up not just with the stability you’re looking for, but the fireworks too.
11. The Princess. You have old-fashioned sensibilities and need a chivalrous guy. More than anything, you expect to be adored, taken care of and kept according to a certain lifestyle. Whether it’s sending you flowers, whisking you away for the weekend, or taking you shopping, the right guy for you will be the one who’s all about YOU.
If you’re her, remember: People in love take care of each other but if you’re all about being taken care of financially, you run the risk of coming off like a gold-digger. Just as women don’t like being objectified for our bodies, men don’t appreciate being objectified for their bank accounts.
12. The Zen Girl. Sure, it would be great to be in love but being single is pretty amazing too. While your girlfriends are obsessing about how to find their next boyfriend, you’re happy living in the moment, enjoying your freedom. After all, this is the youngest you’ll ever be and you might as well milk it for every ounce of fun.
If you’re her, remember: This is exactly how you should be. Live your life fully and everything you want will show up.

*** 5 Pleasant Ways To Break Up With Your Partner ***

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Every breakup doesn’t have to end on a bad note. Unless your partner was toxic to your well being, there’s room for close friendship after the break up.
There are ways to end a relationship that are nice and amicable. Staying as friends is more important than any issues you might have with each other.
Here are some tips on how to end a relationship very peacefully so you can stay friends with your partner:
1. Honesty: Be completely honest with your soon to be ex-partner. And while being honest try to be nice too.
2. Don’t do it over the phone: Using any other device is unacceptable. Emails and text messages could be quite disrespectful.
3. Don’t answer back when they are upset: Make them understand why you are doing it. Don’t fire back even they hurl insults out of anger.
4. Choose the right time: Make sure your partner is stable. You don’t breakup with them when they are going through some other emotional issue, that’ll be too much for them.
5. Don’t include anyone’s name during your discussion: While letting them know why you don’t want to be with them, you can spare them details of your new partner if you already have one. Take their feelings into consideration first.

*** 8 Signs She Has Lost Interest In You (Must Read For All Guys) ***

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Has your girlfriend suddenly started acting differently around you? Have you been trying to understand her actions but just can’t seem to figure them out? Well, the reason she’s been acting differently may be because she is losing interest in you.
In our article the 5 Signs She’s Not Into You, we examined signs of a woman’s low interest level in the early dating stages. But what about when you’ve been together for a while? If you see that your girlfriend exhibits any of the following warning signs, you have reason to be concerned.
1. She Puts Her Girlfriends Ahead Of You
All women are entitled to a girl’s night out here and there with their girlfriends, but if spending time with their girlfriends has begun to take priority over you and she consistently leaves you at home to gallivant in nightclubs, she is definitely losing interest in you.
2. She Avoids Public Affection With You
If your girlfriend has allowed you to kiss her or hold her hand in public in the past and suddenly begins rejecting your advances or moves away from you without an obvious reason, you have reason to worry about her interest level in the relationship.
3. She’s Lost Interest In s*x (With You)
If she has suddenly become bored by your performance in bed and you’re rarely hitting the sheets any more, she may be wishing for someone else to rub her the right way.
4. She Starts Fights With You Without Any Good Reason
If she has all of a sudden noticeably lowered her tolerance level for your little mistakes, constantly picks fights and turns every little thing into an argument or a disagreement, chances are her interest level has lowered and she is probably unhappy about the way your relationship is going.
5. She Shows Interest In Other Guys
If you notice your girlfriend openly checking out other guys and flirting with other men while you’re right there beside her, it could be her way of sending you a subtle message that she’s shopping around for another man.
6. She’s Put Distance Between You
A woman who is in a happy relationship always makes time for her partner. So if all of a sudden you don’t see your girlfriend for a week or more and when she does answer your calls, she is busy and is always in a rush to get off the phone with you, something is definitely wrong. Take this as hint that she wants time apart to explore what it feels like to be away from you.
7. She’s No Longer Affectionate Toward You
If she just sits there and does nothing when you attempt to touch her and caress her or you’re always the one who initiates the hand holding or hugs first, a breakup may be impending.
8. She Begins Saying “I” Instead Of “We”
If you feel like your girlfriend hardly talks, doesn’t contribute much to the conversations you have your and she starts to use “I” instead of “we” when talking about the future, this means that she does not see a future with you in it anymore.
Drop your Comments, I believe you guys must have dated one or two girls who are now Ex – Tell Us The Sign you noticed before you finally broke up.

*** 10 Signs Your Girlfriend Will Be Bad In Bed (Must Read) ***

These are a couple of pointers to the fact that your girlfriend maybe an amateur on bed as you will need to prepare against any shocker during $ex.
No one wants to get in bed with someone who could potentially be a bad lay, but short of having psychic abilities, it is almost impossible to know how a woman will fare in bed. Or is it? Keeping your eye out for a few attributes could give you an idea on how much satisfaction you can expect from her in the hay.
1. Bad kisser : Most bad kissers make bad lovers. Kissing is a sensual act and if her kissing does not turn you on, it is unlikely that anything else will.
2. Bad at non-verbal communication ; When a woman knows how to use her body to communicate what she wants outside the bedroom, chances her, she will know what to do with her body inside it.
3. Bad dancer: There is a reason men love to watch women dance. A woman who has the moves in the club will most likely have the moves in the bedroom too.
4. She is reserved : A woman willing to try new things will excel in the bedroom. If a girl is afraid to try a new restaurant, chances are she won’t be up to trying any new $ex positions. Adventurous girls make good bedmates.
5. No confidence: $ex, for women is about 99 percent confidence. A confident woman knows how to ask for what she wants will know how to communicate this to you in the bedroom too.
6. She is all talk: When all a woman does is brag about how great she is in the bedroom, you are unlikely to have a good time. If she is, in fact, good, then she would have talked herself too high that no experience will reach that expectation. But, more often than not, only people insecure in bed will feel the need to overcompensate with too much talk. Silent confidence is $exy.
7. She is uptight: For you to enjoy $ex, you need to be able to let go. A uptight person will find this difficult to do. Free spirited women tend to be better in the bedroom because they live in the moment.
8. No sense of humor : $ex is fun, and a person who is all too serious will not make a good $ex partner. There is nothing fun or $exy about a boring girl with no personality, no matter how good she looks.
9. She is inactive: Someone who spends most of her time just sitting around will be bad in bed. Why? Because good $ex requires stamina, flexibility and strength. This comes from having an active lifestyle.
10. She is insecure: When a woman is unsure of herself, this is not $exy. Ladies, even if you are the most insecure person on the planet, you need to fake it until you make it or you are going to have a lot of trouble finding a compatible lover.

*** 6 Signs That Show He Is cheat*ng On You ***

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Follow your instincts’. This saying is best suited to this situation. If you are getting vibes from your partner’s behaviour that there is something wrong, then there might be.
Don’t go paranoid and start making false accusations. But you need to keep your eyes open. Be more vigilant and observe any changes in your relationship.
Here is a list of some obvious signs that tell you if your significant other is cheat*ng on you. If you find any of these signs, then it is a red signal for you.
Have a look!
6. Change In Your Intimate Relation:
When a guy is cheat*ng, there is a significant change in this pa$$ion and intimacy towards his partner.
If he is getting everything from another source, he will be less likely to come to you for any of his desires.
5. Over Conscious About His Mobile Phone:
Everyone has a right to privacy. But when you notice that your partner is getting nervous and conscious when he receives texts and calls, it is a red flag for you.
Don’t just start blaming. However, you need to be more alert and watchful for any such suspicious acts in the future.
4. Getting Disconnected:
Are you feeling that he is not sharing the same emotional and physical bond with you anymore? This can be a signal that he is drifting away from you.
You can easily judge if he seems to be less pa$$ionate towards you. He is definitely cheat*ng on you when you feel disconnected with him, both on emotional and physical levels.
3. Cheated In The Past:
‘Once a cheater, always a cheater.’ If he has cheated on his ex or on you in the past, he is capable of repeating this behaviour. Don’t keep yourself in false illusions.
If he can cheat with others, he can cheat on you as well. But if he comes to you and confesses about his past behaviour, then you might want to give him a chance. But I would suggest keeping your eyes open at all times.
2. Friends’ Behaviour:
If you feel a sudden change in his friends’ behaviour and attitude then something wrong is going on for sure. His friends will remain loyal to him but they will feel guilty of hiding the facts from you.
You can guess from his friends’ strange behaviour that something is fishy.
1. Constant Lying:
It is a good idea to give your partner a second chance, especially when you both enjoy a healthy life together. But if your significant other has adopted lying as a habit then you might change your stance on this relationship.
If he is constantly lying about different things then it is a clear indication that he is not loyal to you anymore.

*** 7 things to do if you want to end up in a serious relationship ***

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Maintaining a serious relationship can be tasking . A successful long term relationship is a joint effort between two committed people.
If you have something ‘real’ and ‘special’ with someone you see a future with, here are 7 things to do which will make you more committed.
1. Look for the right partner: Keep your eyes open for ‘wife and husband materials’. If you spot a potential player, there’s no need dating them thinking they’ll change. Find someone who compliments you.
2. Be matured: Partying and drinking like a teenager is a no-no. Be more responsible, get a job and earn a good living. This would make you more independent and ready to handle what comes your way.
3. Be with someone who wants a serious relationship as you do: This crosses out the players and emotionally unavailable people. If you are ready to commit, find someone who’s on the same page with you.
4. Make more effort: Loving someone involves not running away after two fights. We all know it’s not easy, but if this is worth fighting for, then don’t let anything stop you.
5. Have no expectations: Don’t set the bar too high or too low. Don’t expect too much so you don’t end up disappointed.
6. Make room in your tight schedule: Set aside enough time to spend with your partner. If you are very busy during the weekdays, try to spend time with them on weekends. The more you are together, the stronger your relationship becomes.
7. Your future plans should align with theirs: Some things matter more when you are in a serious relationships. You guys should have a chat before things get too serious, this will help you check if your plans matches with theirs.

*** 7 clear signs you and your partner are meant for each other ***

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Is there a certain factor that makes a relationship last?
We know some couples stay together for some months, years then break up when things turn sour. Others stay together, make it through marriage till death keeps them apart. How can you tell if you and your partner are meant to be together?
Inspired by All Women Stalk, here are a few signs that your relationship is meant to last:
1. No pretence: You both are real with each other. No pretences involved.
2. You both can almost read each other’s minds. You know when your support is needed and give it before your partner asks.
3. You both respect your need for space. You both understand there’s always a time for everything including a ‘me’ time.
5. You are not afraid to straighten touchy issues with your partner. You both speak your minds when something goes wrong and know how to fight fair with each other.
6. You still flirt with your partner like you both just met.
7. You both are genuinely cool with each others friends. You don’t mind your partner hanging out with their friends while you have fun with yours.

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*** 7 Best first Date Conversation Starters. ***

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7 Best first Date Conversation Starters.
Whether you’re a shy girl who has no idea how to start a conversation with a new guy or you’re a confident woman who can’t stand those awkward silent moments, knowing some of the best conversation starters are sure to help you out. Some of us have trouble starting a conversation on a second date too. It’s not because we’re not smart or charming or interesting. It’s because our emotions and feelings don’t let our brains think clearly. A little bit of practice can make your first and next dates more exciting and fun. Plus, you will save your date from dealing with silent moments – a win-win solution for two of you. Take a look at the best first date conversation starters and pick what you think both of you will love to discuss.
1. Childhood memories
Even though not all of us have great childhood memories, there’s still something positive you or your date might have. When I begin to talk about my childhood, I have a number of interesting stories to tell, though it wasn’t so happy and trouble-free. If you see that your date speaks about his childhood with a smile on his face, keep asking questions and tell about your funniest memories too. This is a good way to learn more about each other.
2. Holidays
It’s a holiday season, which means, you have an awesome conversation starter. Talk about your favorite holidays and the ways you usually celebrate them. Recollect the most wonderful moments and ask your date about his too. Christmas is a charming holiday that everyone likes so why not make it your first date conversation starter?
3. Food
When I wrote ‘food’ I didn’t mean diet tips, diet goals and calorie intake. You can discuss your favorite and unfavorite meals and drinks, fruit and vegetables, or desserts. Food is a common topic to discuss on a first date. Unless you talk about your calorie intake and weight loss goals, your date will be eager to find out what you like. Romantic dinners are still popular, girls, and men know it.
4. Technology
Let’s face it: we live in a world where people fall asleep with their smartphones and check their timelines and emails every time they wake up. Discussing some old or new inventions is a great first date conversation starter. But make sure you don’t brag. If you see that your date doesn’t have a cool phone or he’s a poor student who knows nothing about Mac and iPhone, skip this topic, even if you have the latest gadgets. Otherwise, he will get you wrong.
5. Music
It may seem cliché and boring, but music has a magic power. It heals the soul, boosts mood and inspire us to move forward. Music is a perfect first date conversation ice-breaker too. You know almost nothing about one another so discussing music related questions will entertain both of you and help you find something in common. Who knows, maybe you two love Halestorm or still can’t get over the Beatles. You might listen to your favorite bands on a second date.
6. Career
Whether you are students or successful managers, discussing career goals and achievements is one of the best ways to start a conversation. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time, just a few sentences and that it. Again, no bragging and moaning. Avoid discussing and gossiping about your bosses and coworkers. The last thing you want is to turn your date into a business meeting.
7. Family
Family is a bit tricky first date conversation starter, but when other topics fail, why not talk about your families? Parents, siblings, nieces or nephews, whoever. If you have little kids in your family, make sure you talk about them. Your date will see how much you love kids, and know you will be a wonderful mom. Moreover, you will find out how he treats his parents and kids as well. If you are planning to build a relationship with this guy, you should know as many details about his family as possible.
First date conversation starters can vary from person to person. You can’t know what topics your date would like to discuss. Stay flexible. If you feel like your conversation starter is a total failure, quickly change the topic. Your date can also suggest some interesting topics. Don’t discuss your exes, crushes, family problems and health issues. He’s not interested in those details. What was your worst first date conversation starter?