***7 things men like in women more than good looks ***

While great relationships start with mutual attraction, in the long run, the relationship is destined to fail if the couple lacks compatibility. Curious to know what men truly look for when they want to enter a committed relationship? Here is a list of traits that are far more important than beauty.

1. Confidence

A good boyfriend strives to make his Significant Other feel special, but there is nothing sexier than a woman who understands her own worth. Men might like a girl with a pretty face and nice figure, but if she is in need of constant reassurances that they are attractive or cannot accept a compliment, it will eventually wear a guy down and he will move on to a woman who is happy with who she is.

2. A Sense of Humor

A woman might be drop-dead gorgeous, but she will never win a place in a man’s heart unless she has the ability to make him laugh. A great sense of humor is the perfect way to alleviate stress and allows the couple to bond. A witty joke or an occasional sneaky, light-hearted prank will score a woman big time points with her man.

3. A listening spirit

Most men appreciate women who are able to just listen – no “ I told you so” lines, no lectures, tips or comments regarding what you would do if you were in his place. You know… just sitting, listening (and I mean REALLY listening)… just showing that you care.

Oh, and that involves being patient as well, understanding that most men need to “process” their problems before they can talk about them and learn to say, “Okay, baby, whenever you want to talk about it – I’m here for you”.

4. A Willingness to Accept His Flaws

One of the keys to a healthy relationship is understanding that your partner is not perfect.

This is why men want women who are not overly critical and who don’t seek to change them. If a woman can love him for his goofy fashion sense or his eccentric personality, they are on their way to relationship success.

5. Creativity

It goes without saying that a relationship is more rewarding if the couple involved have a free-spirit and creative mind. It always keeps things interesting and creates a sense of purpose. For example, women who surprise her man by writing him a story or painting him a picture stands a great chance of winning his heart forever.

6. A Drama-free Personality

Life is like a roller coaster. Some days will be good and others will be completely rotten. However, it is unnecessary for every little problem to explode into a major conflict. Women who have the right perspective and do not make mountains out of molehills will find it far easier to win their man over.

7. A Compromiser

Having disagreements is a perfectly normal part of a relationship. However, stubbornness and an “my way or the highway” only leads to misery. This is why men appreciate women who are able to negotiate and find a solution that satisfies both partners. This could be true for hobbies (i.e, the guy takes his girl to a football game in exchange for her taking him to a musical) but will especially come in handy when it comes to important matters such as raising children together.


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*** How to Ask a Girl Out ***

Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold your gaze for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these signs could mean that she likes you. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she doesn’t like you, or she does like you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction. If she’s looking at you in a mean way, check your teeth. If she pulls away quickly, it could mean she is nervous but still likes you.

  • Remember that if you are having a conversation, girls tend to look at your face, so don’t immediately assume that she likes you if you are speaking and she is simply listening. If you never talk to the girl, chances are you have a low chance of dating her. Friendships lead to love, but non-friendship leads to…. nothing.

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*** How to Flirt : Method One of Two: Flirting In-Person ***

Flirting, at its most basic, is playfully showing you are romantically attracted to someone. If you are ready to flirt with someone, you should already know you are sexually attracted to them, and like them! It might seem nerve-wracking to start flirting and put yourself out there, but fear not—it’s normal to be nervous around someone you really like, and there are ways to seem confident and pull off a successful flirtation. Whether you’re flirting over text, online, or in-person, it’s important to keep a balance between revealing your feelings and keeping the person you like intrigued. If you want to know how to flirt and you’d like some help getting to know someone, this article gives some general advice.

1. Make eye contact. Eye contact is the best and easiest thing you can do to start flirting. You can look deeply into the person’s eyes while also taking the time to break eye contact to keep things from getting too intense. Consider using it in these ways:

  • Get caught looking. Don’t stare, but do throw small glances at someone. Keep doing it until he or she catches you. Hold the gaze for a second, smile, and look away.
  • Look into his or her eyes when you talk, particularly at meaningful points in the conversation (for example, while you’re paying a compliment).
  • Wink or raise your eyebrows at your crush. It’s cheesy, but it works if used sparingly. Do it when you’re looking at someone from across a room, or if you’re talking in a group and say something really meant for him or her.
  • Girls can try looking at a guy, lowering your gaze, and looking up at the guy again through lowered lashes.

2. Smile. You’ll probably smile automatically if you’re talking to someone you like, but you can use your pearly whites to your advantage before the conversation even starts. You can even smile at the person when you pass him or her by in the halls, or just from across the room. You don’t have to grin from ear to ear, either; just a simple, subtle smile will do the trick. Try these variations:

  • Smile slowly. If you’re looking at someone but not talking to them, try letting a slow smile spread over your face instead of breaking into an insta-grin. Slow, languid smiles are generally considered sexy.
  • Smile when you make eye contact. If you’re suddenly looking into someone’s eyes, toss in a smile for extra appeal. (If it’s a genuine smile, the other person will see it without even looking at your mouth — it will crinkle your eyes, and is known as a Duchenne smile.)
  • Try smiling with your eyes, not just your mouth. Make your whole face light up when you smile.

3. Start talking. Introduce yourself — or maintain the mystery (optional). If you don’t already know the person you’re flirting with, an introduction (or lack of one) can be a great thing to build flirting around. Avoid the urge to have a cheesy pick-up line. Saying “Hi” followed by an introduction or a simple question is much more effective and less forced.

  • If your crush doesn’t know your name and you’re a naturally gregarious person, try introducing yourself at some point. It can be as simple as, “Hi, I’m [name]. And you are…?” Make sureyou get the other person’s name. To help yourself remember it, try repeating it after he or she says it to you. (Such as “Lily. I love that name.”)
  • Or, if you want to make yourself seem like a bit of a challenge, work to keep your identity a mystery for a little while. If the other person really wants to know, he or she will ask around or keep pursuing you.

4. Initiate a conversation. Whether you already know the other person or not, a conversation is the best way to move the flirtation forward. The person you’re flirting with will be impressed by your boldness and confidence. Here are a few guidelines:

  • Talk to someone you don’t already know. Perhaps the best way to strike up a conversation is to start with an observation which ends with a question: “I can’t believe how much it’s rained this week” or “This place sure is packed, eh?” What you say isn’t important — you are simply inviting the person to talk with you.
  • Find common ground with someone you do know. If you’ve already met the other person, strike up a conversation based on a shared experience or interest. For instance, you might talk about a class you’re taking together, or the train you both take to work. Again, the topic itself doesn’t matter — what matters is that you’re inviting him or her to interact with you.
  • Gauge the response. If the person responds pleasantly, continue the conversation. If the person doesn’t respond or seems preoccupied or disinterested, he or she probably isn’t interested in flirting with you.

5. Keep it light. Don’t bring up anything too personal when you’re talking. Talk about the environment around you, the show you just saw, etc. Keep personal information (such as religion, money, relationships, education, and so on) out of it, unless the person enjoys intellectual debates without becoming over-emotional. Generally, it’s best to avoid debating topics personally relevant to either of you (such as either yours or their religion) and to rather discuss topics you both don’t have a personal stake in.

  • It’s easier to flirt when you’re talking about more fun and lighthearted topics, such as your pets, reality television, or your favorite vacation spots. This doesn’t mean you have to dumb yourself down to flirt, but it does mean you have to relax and avoid the deep talk for a while.
  • Be playful. Being playful means not taking yourself too seriously, being a bit silly, playfully hitting your crush, or talking about something slightly offbeat or unexpected. It also means not putting too much pressure on yourself over the course of the conversation.

6. Use body language to communicate your intentions. Non-verbal cues can say a lot more about how you feel than what’s actually coming out of your mouth, so make sure you’re communicating how you feel. Try the following:

  • Keep your stance “open.” Don’t cross your arms or legs, as these are generally signs that you wish to isolate yourself from the other person.
  • Turn your body toward the other person. Stand or sit so that you’re facing the person you’re flirting up. Angle your torso toward him or her, or point your feet in that direction.
  • Break the “touch barrier”. Casually initiate physical contact by touching him or her on the forearm as you talk, or by “accidentally” walking too close and brushing up against the other person.
  • Play with your hair (girls). Playing with your hair is usually a sign of nervousness, which is a good thing if you like the other person — you almost want him or her to know you’re nervous because it means you’re interested. To consciously communicate this, slowly twirl a strand of hair around your finger as you talk.


Break the touch barrier. The first few times you touch your crush, be careful not to “trap” him or her. Depending on the area, the contact should be long enough to be more than accidental, but no more. Avoid grasping a hand or arm, and instead try gestures such as brushing an imaginary speck of dirt off of their arm, or “accidentally” touching feet or knees without pulling away.

  • All of these touches can be rejected without humiliation or offense, so if your crush is not ready for that kind of contact, you will not be forcing them to reject you entirely.

8. Compliment the other person early in the conversation. It might seem too forward, but letting him or her know you’re interested in dating before a solid friendship begins is the easiest way to detour around the friend-zone. Get confident, and don’t let the opportunity slip by — you never know when you’ll get another one. Here are some techniques to try:

  • Maintain eye contact while you’re complimenting. Looking away might accidentally make you seem insincere.
  • Lower the tone and volume of your voice slightly. Paying a compliment in a slightly lower register than your usual speaking voice makes it seem intimate and sexy. Plus, it might also coax the other person to come closer to hear you.
  • Use your crush’s other interests to your advantage. If you know this person is dating (or interested in) someone else, you can use this to your advantage in a compliment.
  • Try weaving the compliment into the conversation. For instance, if the girl you like is talking about how she had a terrible day, you could say something like “I hate seeing someone as beautiful as you feel so unhappy. What can I do to help?”
  • Be careful about complimenting looks. A girl might like it if you notice her eyes, but she might label you as creepy if you say she has a nice figure too soon. Play it safe and stick to these physical features:
    • Eyes
    • Smile
    • Lips
    • Hair
    • Hands

9. Keep your interactions short and sweet. Remember that the key to creating demand is making supply scarce, so try to limit your interactions with the object of your flirtations. Don’t talk to him or her every single day. Make it a special event and save it for a few times a week.

  • Don’t let conversations drag on for more than 5 or 10 minutes. The longer they go on, the higher your odds of running into an awkward silence.
  • Let the other person come to you. After you’ve put in the work of starting up the interaction and sparking an interest, pull back a bit and see if he or she seeks you out for an interaction. This can be a good way to gauge interest, as well as build tension.

10. Close the deal. If your flirting has been successful so far, and you want to get to know the other person better, it’s time to see if you can turn it into a date. Here are a few approaches:

  • Ask if the other person has plans at a later date. For instance, you might say, “So, what are you up to on Saturday night?” Try to keep this an open question, instead of one that requires a yes or no answer — you’ll get more information that way. Don’t ask someone what he or she is doing tonight, or even tomorrow. Try to schedule the date a few days out so that you don’t come off as overly desperate.
  • Suggest a specific event and ask if he or she would like to come along. This is the best approach if you’re trying to arrange a group date. You could say something like, “So a bunch of us were going to see a movie on Friday, and I’d really like it if you came with us.”
  • Be straightforward. If you’re feeling extra confident, go in for the kill without any pretense. For instance, you could say something like, “I’d really love to take you on a date. When are you free?”

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*** How to Find Out if Someone Has a Crush on You: Method Three of Three: Asking Questions ***

1. Find out what that person says about you to friends. If he is talking highly of you around his friends or family, or brings your name up whenever he gets a chance, he may have a crush on you. It shows you are always on his mind, and he can’t help but to talk about you. If you have the opportunity, try asking his friends questions about what he says when you are not around. Here is a way you could ask:

  • “Do you know if he is dating anyone? I never hear him say anything, and I am just curious.”

2. Ask your friends what they think. Your friends are great resources to turn to because they may have noticed or heard things you have not. Ask them if they have seen him give you any lustful glares, or if he talks about you when you are not around. Your friends should give you the honest truth.

  • “Do you know if he likes anyone? Have you heard anything about who he is into?”
  • “Have you noticed him acting different around me? Do you think he treats me like a friend or something more?”

  • 3.
    Be direct and ask him. One of the best ways to find out how someone is feeling is to muster up the courage and ask. It can be a difficult thing to do, for both of you, but it is the only way you will know for sure. Here are a couple ways you can ask:

    • “Hey, I have been wondering something lately. Do you like me more than a friend?”
    • If you like him back, you could say, “I have been wanting to talk to you about something. I have a crush on you, and I was wondering if you feel the same way?”
  • “Hey, I have been wondering something lately. Do you like me more than a friend?”
  • If you like him back, you could say, “I have been wanting to talk to you about something. I have a crush on you, and I was wondering if you feel the same way?”

10 Second Summary

1. Note how they act around you. Look for eye contact, closeness, and fidgeting.
2. Check to see if they follow you on social media, and how often they text you.
3. Listen to what they say to you and about you.
4. Consider asking your friends for their opinion.
5. Try asking him or her directly.

  • Hang out with your potential crush once in a while. Get to know each other better.

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  • Do not be unkind to your potential crush when he or she is around you.

  • If you don’t really like your crush, keep that to yourself. Otherwise, you will hurt his or her feelings.

  • If you don’t like the person that’s crushing on you, don’t lead them on. It can really hurt their feelings.

*** How to Find Out if Someone Has a Crush on You : Method Two of Three: Watching for Obvious Signs ***

1. Notice if she follows you on social media. One big indicator that someone is totally into you is by checking to see if that person has reached out to you via social media. This means someone is thinking about you when you are not together and wants to learn more about your personal life.

2.Watch for text messages that don’t have any real meaning. If she sends you a text message just to see what you are doing, or texts you all day long, then she probably can’t get you off of her mind. Constant communication is a clear sign that she has a crush on you.

3. Watch for gentle teasing. If someone has a crush on you, she may lightly make fun of you, not to hurt your feelings, but to make you smile. There is a common method of flirtation.

  • Along with teasing, watch for funny conversations. Chances are, she will try to keep conversations light and funny to get you to laugh, if she has a crush on you.

4. Look for a cleaned up appearance. It can be hard to tell if someone always tries to look their best, or if it is for you. If you are Facebook friends, try looking at her photos to get a sense of what her appearance is like when you two are not around each other. If it seems that she tries to look at her best only around you, then you know she is trying to impress you.


5. Watch for special gifts. If someone stops at a shop you love to buy you a special gift, or surprises you with a little treat, then it is a sign of a crush. She wants to make you happy with her small gestures of affection and show you that she cares.

6. See how available she is to you. If someone is always willing to spend time with you and never misses a chance to see you, then you can be sure she has a crush on you. Watch to see if she attends the same parties as you or cancels on other plans to hang out with you.

7. Pay attention to compliments. If someone is crushing on you, be ready for compliments about even the smallest changes you make. Someone who likes you will notice when you get a haircut or buy a new pair of shoes, and she will let you know about that new change with a compliment.

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*** How to Find Out if Someone Has a Crush on You : Method One of Three: Observing Body Language ***

Daydreaming about whether someone likes you or not can be tough. Fortunately, there are many behaviors you can watch for that may give you your answer. This site will give you some advice on how to find out if someone has a crush on you.

Take note of heavy eye contact. If he is constantly staring at you, or in your direction, it may be because he has a crush on you. Try to pay attention to the difference between a normal stare when having a conversation versus a more intense, lustful glare. A lot of eye contact is one way he will try to gain your interest and get you to notice him.

  • When you catch him looking at you, see if he pretends to look somewhere else. This is a good sign he has a crush.
  • Try standing out of his sight to see if he moves in a way where he can see you again. For example, if you two are talking in a group of people, stand behind someone so he can’t see you. Then, watch to see if he positions himself in a new spot that allows him to see you.
  • 2. See how close he gets to you. If he tries to stand close to you at parties, or sits next to you at lunch, chances are he has a major crush on you. This is his way of getting as physically close to you as he can to express how he cares and enjoys being near you.
  • 3. Look at his hand gestures. People express their emotions with their body language, and that includes hands. Girls are known to flip their hair or gently touch the shoulder or hand of the person they are crushing on. Guys tend to talk more with their hands when talking to girls they have a crush on because they are excited.

  • 4. Pay attention to awkward behavior. If he blushes around you, laughs uncontrollably for almost no reason, can’t look you in the eye, or fidgets a lot, then you have your answer. These are all tell-tale signs of someone who is crushing.

5. See if he mirrors your behavior. A common sign of attraction can be shown through imitation. When people do this, they do not even realize it. Watch for someone using common words or catch phrases you say or talking about things you are interested in to relate with you more.

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*** Revealed! Why Women Find ‘Dominant’ Men More Attractive ***


Men with genetic make up linked to social dominance and leadership are seen as more desirable romantic partners by members of the opposite sex, a study says.
Conversely, men find women with genetic make up linked to sensitivity/submissiveness more attractive, the findings showed.
The findings, published in the journal Human Nature, suggest that men and women with genotypes consistent with prevailing gender norms are seen as more desirable.
The researchers from the University of California, Irvine wanted to find out if mate selection could actually be influenced by people’s ability to quickly detect the so-called “good genes.”
The team led by Karen Wu turned to speed-dating to test their predictions in a real-life scenario.
In such meet-ups, participants only had a few minutes to assess the short- and long-term potential of their speed-dating partners, and to decide whether or not to offer their partners a second date.
The team recruited 262 single Asian Americans to have three-minute dates with members of the opposite sex.
After each speed-date, participants were asked whether or not they wanted to offer their partner a second date, and how desirable they found the person as a romantic partner.
Participants were notified of a “match” (and thus obtained each other’s contact information) only if they both offered each other another date.
When examining the DNA samples collected from participants, the researchers focused on two polymorphisms (on two different genes) that were previously linked to social dynamics.
One of the polymorphisms is part of the genetic make-up that has been linked to social dominance and leadership.
The other, which has been linked to social sensitivity, is part of the opioid receptor gene that contributes to people’s capacity to experience social pleasure and pain, and their need to have social contact.
The researchers found that men and women with genotypes consistent with prevailing gender norms were more likely to receive second date offers.
They were also seen as more desirable short- and long-term romantic following
Other reasons may includes the following

You must be trustworthy

At the core of this power exchange between the dominant and the submissive there is trust. In a free modern society, submission is not something that you impose on women but something that they give you when they can fully trust you with their life.

To be trustworthy, you need to have integrity with yourself, to keep your word at all times and to fulfil your responsibility as a good dominant diligently.

Only once you have proven that she can surrender to you and that everything is going to be sweet under your dominance, she will do just that.

Especially if you’re young, you definitively need to demonstrate that you can be trusted and that you know what you’re doing.

You’re the boss

See it like this: you’re the boss and your girlfriend or wife is your lieutenant. Obviously, what she thinks matters, she is second-in-command in your unit, and you’re the one who gave her the promotion. But let’s be clear about one important thing here: you are the one who makes the decision and take the responsibility for it. If you’re smart, you should ask for her opinion, her point of view or ideas but if they are unreasonable, you do not necessarily have to implement them.

You’re the boss, you’re in charge, you make the decisions, and if they turn to shit, you’re responsible for fixing them.

Realize one thing: yes, she wants to be heard; yes, she wants to be trusted, although she doesn’t want to make the decisions and take the responsibilities that come with them!

Take charge

You need to take charge in simple everyday stuff, for example: It’s Saturday night and you chose to reward her with a dinner at a restaurant because she had been a good girl all week long. Then, you chose the restaurant and you even requested a specific table for the occasion. Then you chose her place and pulled her chair showing her where to sit, and then you chose the food and made the order. If you’re with the family, you sit at the head of the table. Before leaving the place, you paid the bill. If the service or the food sucked, you then spoke with the manager or dragged her to another place.

Forget about those new modern western models for relationships because that kind of crap doesn’t work; statistics on divorce pretty much make my point for me. Trust me!  Be smart and stick to what worked very well in all cultures around the world since the last few thousand years, and it’s going to be fine. Just trust the knowledge of those billions of other men who came before you on this.
If your daily work or business requires more energy than hers, or that you bring more money home, it’s only logical that you take more rest once at home. Explain it to her that you’re doing harder work and you have more responsibilities, thus you need to take a fucking nap! It’s her duty to make sure that you can.

If she is not a nut-job, and you’re a good dominant figure in her life, then there will be no problem with that.

In exchange, you need to respect her domestic work and be grateful for it. When she does a good job, it’s your duty as the dominant figure to express your appreciation, and even reward her good behaviour once in a while. On the long run, she will love and take pride in taking care of you because she knows that if she doesn’t keep up with you, then there are plenty of other women who would. This will make her special.

*** Relationship: Romantic gestures in smallest ways ***

 Where words are not enough to express how madly in love we have falling for our partners, romantic gestures will do.
Watch a romantic movie together once a month and order all the rich takeout food you’ve been craving for the entire month. Switch off your phones, cuddle up for the evening and don’t move out of each other’s sight.
Perform an erotic dance. Even better if you have two left feet which leaves your partner in splits.
On the days that you forget to kiss your wife goodbye, drive back home and give her an intimate kiss and a bear hug *unless you’re in a hurry*. Or come back home now and then just to kiss your wife *because you missed her already!*

Give each other inexpensive well wrapped gifts every now and then. It could be chocolates, flowers, a game CD, or even a potted plant.]
Give him a shave when he’s lazy. Help her brush her hair when she’s in a hurry.
Take a picture of yourself wearing your partner’s clothes and sext it to “the best partner in the world!”
Slip into bed naked and surprise your partner with your impromptu nudity. Tie a little ribbon around your waist or any strategic locations if you want to be their gift for the night.
Give your partner a foot massage when both of you are relaxing on the couch. Hold your partner’s hand and waltz while humming your lover’s favorite tune. Look for little ways to bring a smile on your lover’s face.
Whisper a message in your partner’s voice mail and say something naughty in the middle of the day.
Help your partner prepare dinner and clean the dishes. Think of something innovative to do while you’re at it, like cooking while wearing nothing but aprons or a little food fight.


Chizoba Jude Ukwueze 

*** The Golden Rules Of A Happy Long-Lasting Marriage ***


Here are some tips for keeping your relationship healthy and happy.

One of the greatest questions we hear is, “How do we make our relationship work?” The answers are complicated, varied, and after a while, start to sound like muddled platitudes. But these commonplace sayings get repeated because they work. With this in mind, we pulled together some of the cliches that, in fact, reveal simple, tried-and-true advice for having a healthy, happy relationship..Read on and let us know what you think:
* The couple that plays together, stays together. Find a sport or hobby that you both love (no, watching TV doesn’t count) and make it a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model trains. .. whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.
* Mind your manners. “Please,” “thank you” and “you’re welcome,” can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love him and don’t take him for granted.
* The couple that plays together, stays together. Find a sport or hobby that you both love (no, watching TV doesn’t count) and make it a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model trains. .. whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.
* Fight right. In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind: Don’t call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don’t initiate a discussion when you’re angry.
* I will scratch your back if you scratch mine. No one likes demands (unless you’re in a BDSM role play) but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your lover to do something and you’re not sure he’ll be agreeable, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: “Sure, I’ll watch Monday Night Football if you take me to see the next movie of my choice.
* Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Maintain your own friendships and occasionally have a night out without your significant other. Doing things without your s.o. not only makes you miss him or her, it also keeps you sane. And in case the relationship doesn’t work out, you’ll still have your friends.
* Two heads are better than one. Being in a relationship basically means you’ve made a merger; you’ve not only joined assets but inherited the other’s problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. For example, if he’s gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise program together.
* Laughter is the best medicine. Learn to laugh at yourself and at silly mistakes. If he throws your $300 cashmere sweater in the dryer, laughing it off is better than getting angry in the long run. It’s just a $300 cashmere sweater, not the end of the world.
* Keep your eyes on the prize. Yes, he forgot your co-worker’s name for the tenth time, but it probably doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you. If you keep your perspective fixed on the goal — to be in a happy, functioning partnership — you’re less likely to get tangled up in every minor annoyance. Remember, you both want the same thing.
* Quitters never win. Find a ritual and keep it alive, no matter what. Whether it’s always kissing each other good night, renewing your wedding vows every year, sleeping in as late as you want once a month or committing to having sex once a week, pick something that makes you both feel good and stick to it, even when you’re tempted to skip.
* When the going gets tough, the tough get going … to therapy. Studies show that couples who seek counseling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving their issues than those who don’t. Whether its from a religious figure, counselor or mental health professional, getting an expert to help sort out strife is as wise as forgoing self-installation and hiring a plumber to put in a new sink.

 Chizoba Jude Ukwueze

*** 25 Fun Things To Do With Your Spouse ***


Dedicate more time to your spouse and you will find that your relationship will blossom. Here are 25 simple ideas of activities you can do with your spouse.

 1. Go for a walk

Put on a pair of shoes and set out on a new adventure. A little fresh air and some conversation will always make her day.

 2. Work-out

Lift weights, do jiu-jitsu or go swimming. Find some physical activity you can do together.

 3. Photography

Grab a camera and let the creativity flow. Taking pictures together not only creates memories, but also is a lot of fun.

 4. Try a new restaurant

If you have not tried it, experiment, it is always good to try new flavors. Try Japanese, Italian, Mexican or some other foreign food you have never tried.

 5. Play video games

Video games are all the craze today. Try playing something active like Kinect or Wii-Sports. Besides having fun, you will sweat a little.

6. Football

Go watch live football. Pick a team and follow them through the ranks. Cheering together will bring you closer together. Other sports, such as basketball or soccer are also great options.

 7. Theme Parks

Go visit a theme park. Besides just rides, most offer theatrical presentations and mini shopping malls. Don’t forget to ride the Ferris-wheel for a super romantic evening!

 8. Water Park

Imagine a warm, summer day, spending time with your spouse, getting wet on slippery water slides. Once you are done with the rides, you can simply relax in the lazy river, bathe in the sun or play around in the pools.

 9. Zoos

Zoos are great places to visit for those that enjoy animals.

 10. Circus

The circus provides you with a great opportunity for a laugh together.

 11. Board games

There are just under an infinite number of board games out there, so it is easy to pick one that both you and your spouse enjoy.

 12. Hikes

Many couples like to climb mountains, explore caves or swim under a waterfall. So, get out on the trails.

13. Ride your bikes

Use a helmet and have a fun ride! Do this often.

14. Stroll through the plaza or city center

This idea may seem simple, but it is still very romantic. Make good use of your time and do not forget to try the free samples. There is always something being sold around there. Try a fruit smoothie or a hot chocolate, depending on the weather.

 15. Ice cream

While dating, young couples always go to eat ice cream. The simplicity is romantic.

16. Candle-light dinner

Prepare a dinner to be eaten together in the dim, romantic candle light.

17. Movies

Watch a gooey chick-flick or any other kind of movie that the two of you can enjoy together.

18. Learn another language

Register yourselves in a language class together. You will not only have a good time, but you will also learn another language.

19. Start a new hobby

A new hobby could include anything from collecting baseball cards to croquet. Whatever it is, it will be an opportunity to create a new family tradition that could last for years.

20. Adopt an animal

Any kind of pet is a great addition to the family. What is most important is the love and care the two of you will put into it together.

21. Museums

Visit a museum that interests you. Have fun appreciating, up close, things you enjoy or would like to know more about.

22. Go to a fair

It does not matter what kind of fair it is, be it a harvest festival or car show. What is important, however, is getting out there and having a good time together.

23. Visit a spa

Take a day off to relax together and get some well-deserved rest.

24. Second honeymoon

It is definitely worth it to leave the kids with Grandma May or Aunt Bertha, while you reserve a hotel and a weekend for just the two of you.

25. Visit a church

All men (and women) need the opportunity to communicate with that Supreme Being that they believe in. Create precious memories as you take the time to worship together.

These are small things to do with your spouse, your most important person, your rose. Use these ideas to increase the time you have dedicated to just her.


Published on 15th August 2016 in Lifestyle at 1:59 am